[nfb-talk] question

Thu Jun 7 15:44:52 CDT 2007

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----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Corey Cook" <cooklists at bellsouth.net>
To: "NFB Talk Mailing List" <nfb-talk at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Monday, June 04, 2007 11:43 PM
Subject: Re: [nfb-talk] question

>I share those concerns, and I know we need to sort it all out.
> We are going to finally have some time to go away for a few days in a 
> couple
> of weeks and I am thinking that would vbe the best time to try and hash 
> this
> out a bit.
> We have little time to talk wwith our schedlues right now.
>
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> ----- Original Message ----- 
> From: "Ray Foret Jr." <rforetjr at bellsouth.net>
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> Sent: Monday, June 04, 2007 1:42 AM
> Subject: Re: [nfb-talk] question
>
>
> Corey,
>
>    Part of your latest message on this topic really bothers me a lot.  In
> your message, you say, in part, "the real issue here is that My wife is
> having
> some issues dealing with the blind thing."
>    Corey, I've got all kinds of major alarm bells going off in my head now
> because of that.  To put it quite plainly, if your wife does have trouble
> with the "blind thing", I'd start to get extremely concerned that maybe 
> she
> might have trouble with you being blind yourself; and so, she's trying to 
> be
> a sort of second mother to you to make you more dependent upon her.  Man, 
> I
> don't want to offend you or anything, but, that's a possibility you can't
> afford to overlook now.  Besides which, I'm not the first person on this
> list who has brought it up.  Frankly, it's high time to just put it all 
> out
> on the table; and, do it right now before this thing festers any worse 
> than
> what it already is man!!!  High time to sort it out or else...
>
> Sincerely yours,
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> ----- Original Message ----- 
> From: "Corey Cook" <cooklists at bellsouth.net>
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> Sent: Sunday, June 03, 2007 11:24 PM
> Subject: Re: [nfb-talk] question
>
>
> Much agreed,
> and I am starting to see that the real issue here is that My wife is 
> having
> some issues dealing with the blind thing.
>
> Corey Cook
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> ----- Original Message ----- 
> From: "kaye zimpher" <kayezimpher at bellsouth.net>
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> Sent: Sunday, June 03, 2007 4:54 PM
> Subject: Re: [nfb-talk] question
>
>
> Well I think this is an interesting topic so I will weigh in on this one
> too. I spent many years with a sighted person and I have always felt that 
> we
> should and will always be equal. I never believed in "keeping the peace"
> just because they are sighted. That would imply that somehow they were 
> above
> me and I refuse to be beneath a man that I am dating/engaged to/married 
> to.
> I now am engaged to a blind person and right or wrong I feel that we have 
> a
> much better relationship than I have had previously. I am not sure if it
> because we share the same issues and understanding or if it could be
> something else. Anyways, back to the question at hand. I feel that your
> friend should not allow himself to become dependent on another's kindness. 
> I
> think that even if we as blind folks have a sighted friend that is willing
> to do things for us, we need to show them and ourselves that we are still
> independent and on an equal footing. Your wife however should really take 
> a
> look at the real reason she does not like your friend. If your friend has
> loaned money and time and you have had a give and take relationship with 
> him
> then it should not be the big deal that it seems to be and I agree with 
> Dar
> that a gal needs ladies to hang with from time to time. We need to be with
> other girl friends so that we don't feel like one of the boys all the 
> time.
> She needs to remember that you were blind when you met her and that you 
> most
> likely will be for a while and your friends are too. If she wanted to be 
> in
> a relationship where driving was shared she picked the wrong one. But like
> everyone here has said open communication is a must!
> As far as moving to OR is concerned, I once made the mistake of leaving a
> good job because my sighted x wanted to move to another city. I had a
> terrible time finding another job and we were miserable in our new city. I
> will never make that choice again. We have a much harder time finding work
> than the sighted do. Even if they do not find a job in their field they 
> can
> virtually work anywhere for a short time.
> HTH
> Kaye
> ----- Original Message ----- 
> From: "dmgina" <dmgina at qwest.net>
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> Sent: Sunday, June 03, 2007 4:37 PM
> Subject: Re: [nfb-talk] question
>
>
>> Yes I don't blame you for this one.
>> It takes us quite some time to get a job.
>> I hope you like it and can have it for quite some time.
>> You can't have it both ways.
>> Move and not have a job rite away?
>> Or get a job.
>> So she has to decide what she would like for you to do.
>> And then you will have to decide, to say either I stay here and work for
>> us,
>> or we move and I can't promise a job.
>> We also have to look at age.
>> Something tells me, we are not getting younger smile.
>>
>>
>> --Dar
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>> Every Saint has a future,
>> Every sinner has a past
>> ----- Original Message ----- 
>> From: "Corey Cook" <cooklists at bellsouth.net>
>> To: "NFB Talk Mailing List" <nfb-talk at nfbnet.org>
>> Sent: Saturday, June 02, 2007 11:16 PM
>> Subject: Re: [nfb-talk] question
>>
>>
>>> don't get me wrong I would love to move to oregon, no Hurricanes, no 
>>> real
>>> humid heat.
>>> but I would have to know I had a job offer before moving.
>>> My job is important to me.
>>>
>>> Corey Cook
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>>> ----- Original Message ----- 
>>> From: "Sekhon, Harmeet" <Harmeet_Sekhon at cable.comcast.com>
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>>> Sent: Saturday, June 02, 2007 11:30 AM
>>> Subject: Re: [nfb-talk] question
>>>
>>>
>>> Well, Oregon would be glad to have you two, but I can understand the
>>> need to hold onto that job too.
>>>
>>> Harmeet
>>>
>>> -----Original Message-----
>>> From: nfb-talk-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:nfb-talk-bounces at nfbnet.org]
>>> On Behalf Of Corey Cook
>>> Sent: Friday, June 01, 2007 11:08 PM
>>> To: NFB Talk Mailing List
>>> Subject: Re: [nfb-talk] question
>>>
>>> that is what I am doing at this point is trying to keep the peace.
>>> because we are working threw bigger issues.
>>> Like her wanting us to move to Oregon just 5 months after I got a job!
>>>
>>> Corey Cook
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>>> ----- Original Message ----- 
>>> From: "David Andrews" <dandrews at visi.com>
>>> To: "NFB Talk Mailing List" <nfb-talk at nfbnet.org>
>>> Sent: Saturday, June 02, 2007 1:57 AM
>>> Subject: Re: [nfb-talk] question
>>>
>>>
>>> I understand your feelings, and intellectually I would agree that it
>>> should
>>> have been ok for him to ride.  However, having been married to a sighted
>>>
>>> woman once, I will also say that you sometimes have to do things to keep
>>>
>>> peace in the family that you may not be completely comfortable with.
>>> Hopefully over time you can talk it through with her and reach a palce
>>> that
>>> is comfortable with you both.
>>>
>>> There are tricky issues with sighted wives, driving, dependency,
>>> independence, and other issues.  It isn't always simple or logical.  And
>>> for
>>> her it may have to do as much with your and her relationship as with
>>> driving.
>>>
>>> Sorry I don't have a better answer.
>>>
>>> Dave
>>>
>>> At 12:42 AM 6/2/2007, you wrote:
>>>>Hey all,
>>>>This is Corey Cook.
>>>>I am looking for a little input from some other blind folks.
>>>>As some of you know I am married to a sighted wife.
>>>>We currently live in an apartment complex here in SC that has several
>>> other
>>>>blind folks here. The reason all of the blind ones are here is because
>>> we
>>>>all work for the same company.
>>>>I am really good friends with one of the guys I work with and ever
>>> since we
>>>>moved in here he has been a big help to me and my wife.
>>>>   We have also helped him a lot since we have been here. You know
>>> asking
>>>>him if he wants to go with us to walmart and out and about when we go
>>> out.
>>>>Lately we have cut back on taking him out a lot because it was getting
>>> on
>>>>my
>>>>wife's nerves that he seemed to always be with us when we went
>>> anywhere.
>>>>   I can understand that because it is nice to just have couple time
>>> now
>>>> and
>>>>then, but tonight something happened that really kind of got under my
>>> skin.
>>>>My wife and I had planned to go and see a movie tonight, and my friend
>>>>asked
>>>>if he could ride to the theater with us so he could see a different
>>> movie
>>>>that was playing at the same time.
>>>>   Lets just say that my wife threw a big fit, and got mad that he
>>> wanted
>>>> to
>>>>ride with us. I did not see a reason for a fit or any anger, as he did
>>> not
>>>>want to go to our movie but just wanted a ride so he could see a movie
>>>>also.
>>>>   As a blind person I did not think there was anything wrong with this
>>> as
>>>>we were going to the theater and it cost like 14$ for cab fair, so why
>>> not
>>>>just let him ride in our car, and both movies were equal in length.
>>>>   So I am looking for thoughts, on this. I could have understood if he
>>> was
>>>>trying to crash our movie but it was just a ride.
>>>>   All of a sudden my wife has decided she does not like a person who
>>> has
>>>>been our friend ever since we moved here, someone who has loaned us
>>> money,
>>>>when I had not started working yet, someone who is always willing to
>>> help
>>>>us
>>>>out with anything he can do.
>>>>
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