[nfb-talk] question

Mon Jun 4 08:06:18 CDT 2007

Hi Corey and others;
Once or twice a month, why don't you and your friend go out together.
Take a cab and split the cost.  This way you can keep up your
friendship.  Also, try to have him make more friends in the complex, so
when he goes out he can shair a cab ride with other friends.  This way,
you and your wife will have more time together and your friendship will
be saved.  Hopefully after a few months of not  driving your friend
around, she will open up or relax and accept him again.  If you can get
him to go with others, he will not be a burdin on anyone.  I have a
fealing your wife is finding him a burdin.  
Try some of my ideas.  Maybe she will drop the idea of moving if this
burdin is off her sholders.  It might be why she wants to move.  She
should be proud of you getting a job.  Jobs are hard to come by for the
blind.  I sure know.  I have a husband that is hard to get along with,
but I make do.
Write and let us know how things go.

Terry Powers
powerst at mail.nih.gov

-----Original Message-----
From: dmgina [mailto:dmgina at qwest.net] 
Sent: Saturday, June 02, 2007 11:09 PM
To: NFB Talk Mailing List
Subject: Re: [nfb-talk] question

Hello,
I am Dar,
Jim's wife.
As I say the better half of the better half smile.
Did you ever go see the movie?
Hope so.
I would ask your wife when the three of you are together, is there lots
of 
staring.
Why she would have two guys with her.
Funny, folks go together all of the time, but for us there are times
when 
folks don't understand and want something to talk about.
Yes, Jim knows my feelings and thoughts on many issues.
He has some ladies in his meetings that don't respect he is married.
We did talk this over.
It came down to where they have to be polite to me or don't call.
You don't say "it doesn't matter who I am, I want to talk to Jim."
Because when I share who I am it does matter who is calling.
This doesn't mean I am jealous or anything like that, just being polite.
I am asking Jim to talk over with me what he wants to do, because I feel
the 
same way.
And again Jim knows my feelings.
Even if he didn't want to know smile he knows.
So my question is this for you,
Since you are just married does she feel put out taking another person
with 
you folks?
Even though she did this before?
Why is she uncomfortable with other blind persons?
My first husband was married to a sighted lady, who passed away.
They too had some problems of the same nature.
Be gentle, but don't walk away from your friends because you are
married.
I do also hope your wife has lady friends she can go out to lunch with
as 
well.
Because I don't have this.
We have some church friends that will take us out from time to time,
But to have someone call me and say "Dar would you like to go to lunch?"
I would fall over giggle.
Wishing you the best,
and do feel free to write to either Jim or myself if we can be of any
help.
My first husband passed away,
so for me to date was so different.
I hadn't done it in twenty three years at the time.
Hope this helps.

Just be yourself.
That is all you can do.

--Dar
http://www.mypowermall.com/Biz/Home/5779
Every Saint has a future,
Every sinner has a past
----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Corey Cook" <cooklists at bellsouth.net>
To: "NFB Talk Mailing List" <nfb-talk at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Friday, June 01, 2007 11:42 PM
Subject: [nfb-talk] question

> Hey all,
> This is Corey Cook.
> I am looking for a little input from some other blind folks.
> As some of you know I am married to a sighted wife.
> We currently live in an apartment complex here in SC that has several 
> other
> blind folks here. The reason all of the blind ones are here is because
we
> all work for the same company.
> I am really good friends with one of the guys I work with and ever
since 
> we
> moved in here he has been a big help to me and my wife.
>   We have also helped him a lot since we have been here. You know
asking
> him if he wants to go with us to walmart and out and about when we go
out.
> Lately we have cut back on taking him out a lot because it was getting
on 
> my
> wife's nerves that he seemed to always be with us when we went
anywhere.
>   I can understand that because it is nice to just have couple time
now 
> and
> then, but tonight something happened that really kind of got under my 
> skin.
> My wife and I had planned to go and see a movie tonight, and my friend

> asked
> if he could ride to the theater with us so he could see a different
movie
> that was playing at the same time.
>   Lets just say that my wife threw a big fit, and got mad that he
wanted 
> to
> ride with us. I did not see a reason for a fit or any anger, as he did
not
> want to go to our movie but just wanted a ride so he could see a movie

> also.
>   As a blind person I did not think there was anything wrong with this
as
> we were going to the theater and it cost like 14$ for cab fair, so why
not
> just let him ride in our car, and both movies were equal in length.
>   So I am looking for thoughts, on this. I could have understood if he
was
> trying to crash our movie but it was just a ride.
>   All of a sudden my wife has decided she does not like a person who
has
> been our friend ever since we moved here, someone who has loaned us
money,
> when I had not started working yet, someone who is always willing to
help 
> us
> out with anything he can do.
>
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