[nfb-talk] question

[James Aldrich]

Hello all,

Sometimes life can become frustrating especially when one has been a 
bachelor for a time as I have, then get married.  I'm in my late fifties and 
I am still adjusting to married life.  My wife calls me her bachelor 
husband.  I too wouldn't want this list to become a Dear Ann Landers list 
yet it is comforting to know that a person can come to a very positive list 
as this one to help with such times as these.  I think the man needs some 
focus and some differing thoughts than the ones running around in his head 
so he came to us.  I think that is a compliment!

I'll say right off, I don't have the answer.  The answer lies within you! 
Try as one might, some of these little conflicting issues don't always come 
up prior to one's getting married, and then!  Oh my!  I didn't realize this 
and this and this!  You thought you were a pretty reasonable fellow but then 
you find out otherwise on some occasions especially when your spouse is 
having a bad day!  Believe me my friend, you are not alone!  I think this 
happens to all who are married at some point.  When you reach that point 
which could happen often at times, you need to have an attitude a rather 
positive one at that for dealing with these trying times.   Always strive to 
keep your line of communication open!  Always communicate, don't stop or you 
are in for more trouble!  Don't let fear get in the way, communicate 
everything and anything as much as possible!  If the two of you are in love 
as you say you are, you should be able to do just that!

I wish you the best in facing any challenges in your marriage.  Feel free to 
write me privately if I can be of further help.  Sometimes talking things 
out leads to positive solutions to what is now a perplexing problem.  Just 
remember to put it all out on the table so to speak.

HTH

Jim Aldrich
http://www.mypowermall.com/Biz/Home/5761
----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Joe Orozco" <jsorozco at gmail.com>
To: "NFB Talk Mailing List" <nfb-talk at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Saturday, June 02, 2007 9:15 AM
Subject: Re: [nfb-talk] question


    There are at least three important things to consider here.  First, your
wife comes before your friend.  Second, your friend should have never
allowed himself to become dependent on your wife's good intentions, and
third, you should talk about this with your wife, not leave it to the
musings of strangers across the country.  Just my thoughts.

          Joe Orozco

"Life is a compromise of what your ego wants to do, what experience tells
you to do, and what nerves let you do."--Bruce Crampton

----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Corey Cook" <cooklists at bellsouth.net>
To: "NFB Talk Mailing List" <nfb-talk at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Saturday, June 02, 2007 1:42 AM
Subject: [nfb-talk] question


> Hey all,
> This is Corey Cook.
> I am looking for a little input from some other blind folks.
> As some of you know I am married to a sighted wife.
> We currently live in an apartment complex here in SC that has several
> other
> blind folks here. The reason all of the blind ones are here is because we
> all work for the same company.
> I am really good friends with one of the guys I work with and ever since
> we
> moved in here he has been a big help to me and my wife.
>   We have also helped him a lot since we have been here. You know asking
> him if he wants to go with us to walmart and out and about when we go out.
> Lately we have cut back on taking him out a lot because it was getting on
> my
> wife's nerves that he seemed to always be with us when we went anywhere.
>   I can understand that because it is nice to just have couple time now
> and
> then, but tonight something happened that really kind of got under my
> skin.
> My wife and I had planned to go and see a movie tonight, and my friend
> asked
> if he could ride to the theater with us so he could see a different movie
> that was playing at the same time.
>   Lets just say that my wife threw a big fit, and got mad that he wanted
> to
> ride with us. I did not see a reason for a fit or any anger, as he did not
> want to go to our movie but just wanted a ride so he could see a movie
> also.
>   As a blind person I did not think there was anything wrong with this as
> we were going to the theater and it cost like 14$ for cab fair, so why not
> just let him ride in our car, and both movies were equal in length.
>   So I am looking for thoughts, on this. I could have understood if he was
> trying to crash our movie but it was just a ride.
>   All of a sudden my wife has decided she does not like a person who has
> been our friend ever since we moved here, someone who has loaned us money,
> when I had not started working yet, someone who is always willing to help
> us
> out with anything he can do.
>
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