[nfb-talk] question

[David Andrews]

I understand your feelings, and intellectually I would agree that it should have been ok for him to ride.  However, having been married to a sighted woman once, I will also say that you sometimes have to do things to keep peace in the family that you may not be completely comfortable with.  Hopefully over time you can talk it through with her and reach a palce that is comfortable with you both.

There are tricky issues with sighted wives, driving, dependency, independence, and other issues.  It isn't always simple or logical.  And for her it may have to do as much with your and her relationship as with driving.  

Sorry I don't have a better answer.  

Dave

At 12:42 AM 6/2/2007, you wrote:
>Hey all,
>This is Corey Cook.
>I am looking for a little input from some other blind folks.
>As some of you know I am married to a sighted wife.
>We currently live in an apartment complex here in SC that has several other
>blind folks here. The reason all of the blind ones are here is because we
>all work for the same company.
>I am really good friends with one of the guys I work with and ever since we
>moved in here he has been a big help to me and my wife.
>   We have also helped him a lot since we have been here. You know asking
>him if he wants to go with us to walmart and out and about when we go out.
>Lately we have cut back on taking him out a lot because it was getting on my
>wife's nerves that he seemed to always be with us when we went anywhere.
>   I can understand that because it is nice to just have couple time now and
>then, but tonight something happened that really kind of got under my skin.
>My wife and I had planned to go and see a movie tonight, and my friend asked
>if he could ride to the theater with us so he could see a different movie
>that was playing at the same time.
>   Lets just say that my wife threw a big fit, and got mad that he wanted to
>ride with us. I did not see a reason for a fit or any anger, as he did not
>want to go to our movie but just wanted a ride so he could see a movie also.
>   As a blind person I did not think there was anything wrong with this as
>we were going to the theater and it cost like 14$ for cab fair, so why not
>just let him ride in our car, and both movies were equal in length.
>   So I am looking for thoughts, on this. I could have understood if he was
>trying to crash our movie but it was just a ride.
>   All of a sudden my wife has decided she does not like a person who has
>been our friend ever since we moved here, someone who has loaned us money,
>when I had not started working yet, someone who is always willing to help us
>out with anything he can do. 
>
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