[Faith-talk] Worries of the VI/Blind finding mates....

[Everett Gavel]

Hello All,

Here's another article that fits into this thread.  I
hope it proves a blessing to someone, anyone, here.
I'm glad y'all got me to reread these. (smile)

It's another one from "Single Adult Ministries," and is
titled, "Preparing for A Permanent Relationship."


His,
Everett



Preparing for A Permanent Relationship
http://singles.ag.org/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=2115&Itemid=2272


A positive aspect of a period of singleness is the time
for personal housekeeping and putting your life in
order. This is the time for individual evaluation and
growth. As you discover areas in which you need to
develop discipline, seek the help of the Holy Spirit in
those areas. Strive to improve your life, not just to
become attractive to or prepared for a potential mate,
but to please the Lord.

How do you measure up in each of the following areas?


Spiritual Life

Every Christian needs a committed devotional life. How
is your personal relationship with the Lord, and the
body of believers? Do you

read the Word systematically for understanding and
guidance? (John 15:1-14)

commune with the Lord, regularly, offering thanks and
praise, making your request known to Him? (I
Thessalonians 5:17, Philippians 4:6)

faithfully attend church? (Hebrews 10:25)

fellowship with the body of believers, caring and
sharing together? (Galations 6:2)

exercise your spiritual gifts? (Ephesians 4:7-14)

memorize Scripture? (Psalms 119:11)

have the fruit of the Spirit evident in your life:
love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, gentleness, and
self-control? (Galatians 5:22,23)

live a forgiven life? (1 John 1:9-2:3)


Home Cleanliness

The way you keep your home is a reflection of your
personal priorities. Do you

have a regular schedule of housekeeping?

keep your home reasonably clutter-free?

maintain the home in good repair?

keep up your yard?

drive a clean car?


Personal Hygiene And Appearance

If we as Christians truly accept the concept that our
bodies are the temple of the Holy Spirit (1 Corinthians
6:19,20), we might become better keepers of His house.
Do you

eat a well-balanced, sensible diet?

exercise regularly?

keep yourself clean and well-groomed?

dress modestly and attractively?

relax frequently?

get sufficient rest?

watch your health?

treat your body as the temple of the Holy Spirit?


Finances

Financial responsibility is often a problem. Although
most of those having money problems cite inadequate
incomes or resources as the cause, the real culprit is
usually poor management of what they do have.
Unnecessary purchases, keeping up with the Joneses, and
over-extended credit can create financial nightmares.
Do you

have and live within a reasonable budget?

resist impulse buying, unnecessary purchases, or things
you cannot afford?

save regularly?

plan and save for large purchases or investments?

have adequate insurance (car, health, dental)?

keep your checkbook balanced?

honor God with your tithes and offerings? (1
Corinthians 16:1,2)

use extra money to help needy brothers and sisters in
the Lord? (2 Corinthians 8:13-15; 9:10-11)


Personal Responsibility

One of the basics of a good relationship is trust. And
trust is built by making and keeping commitments.

If you want someone to trust you enough to want to
spend the rest of his life with you, then you must
demonstrate your trustworthiness in all of your
relationships. Do you

accept responsibilities joyfully?

follow through with plan/promises on a timely basis?

take commitments seriously?

keep the confidences of others?

genuinely care about others?

maintain a servant attitude in your relationships?

find that people consider you a responsible adult?

trust others?


Family Life

Our relationship with our parents and siblings are a
good indicator of how we will relate to spouse and
children, for we tend to repeat familiar habit
patterns. How are you disposed toward them?

available?

interested?

loving?

giving?

forgiving?

gentle?

empathetic?

honest?

uncritical and accepting?

encouraging?

helpful?

serving?


If you have discovered some areas in which you need to
grow, sit down and develop goals in those areas. Then
write out a detailed plan to reach each goal you have
set. Assign starting and completion dates to each step
of your plans. And implement your plans. Finally,
periodically review your progress and celebrate your
successes. You are becoming conformed to the image of
Christ.


Would You Date You?

The decisive question is "would you date you?" Knowing
yourself as well as you do, could you honestly say that
you are everything you would look for in a date? If
not, then you probably have some growing to do (along
with the rest of us).


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