[Blindtlk] question

[Peter Donahue]

Hello Robert and listers,

    The gentleman who expected Corry and his wife to give him a ride to the
movies because he couldn't afford the cab fare. He could have found
entertainment closer to home so as not to impose on the couple. Mary and I
would do so, or pay the cab fare and go alone out of respect for our friends
and their desire to have an evening to themselves. How disrespectful of that
gentleman to recognize that his wanting a ride too and from the theatre
violated that couple's privacy and desire to spend quality time together!

Peter Donahue



----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Robert Kelly Jr." <rkellyjr at knology.net>
To: "NFBnet Blind Talk Mailing List" <blindtlk at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Saturday, June 02, 2007 7:34 PM
Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] question


Peter, Who are you referring to about finding entertainment closer to home
the married couple or all three of them?
----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Peter Donahue" <pdonahue1 at sbcglobal.net>
To: "NFBnet Blind Talk Mailing List" <blindtlk at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Saturday, June 02, 2007 7:14 PM
Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] question


> Hello Angie and listers,
>
> Or find entertainment closer to home.
>
> Peter Donahue
>
>
> ----- Original Message ----- 
> From: "Angie Matney" <angie at mpmail.net>
> To: "NFBnet Blind Talk Mailing List" <blindtlk at nfbnet.org>
> Sent: Saturday, June 02, 2007 6:18 PM
> Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] question
>
>
> Ray has a good point. This list does have a public archive. That means
> that
> anyone can find any post made by any member of this list. Your wife or
> your
> friend could very easily find this post.
>
> I don't think your wife is being unreasonable by wanting to have time that
> only involves the two of you. As Marion pointed out, having the other
> person
> along could compromise the spontaneity of the evening. I don't mean to say
> you
> should never help out a friend who needs transportation. But there should
> be
> times when you can go and do things that don't involve your friend. Sure,
> your friend would then have to come up with $14 in cab fare. but
> otherwise,
> you
> have to pay the cost of always having a third person along.
>
> Did you agree to take him without consulting your wife? This could have
> been
> another reason for her anger.
>
> Angie
>
> On Sat, 2 Jun 2007 13:43:39 -0500, Ray Foret Jr. wrote:
>
>>Here's yet another observation.  Your wife might not care for you telling
>>all of us this at all.  Hope she doesn't find out.  I agree with Robert
>>and
>>he's got some good points to make too.
>
>>Sincerely yours,
>>The Constantly Barefooted,
>>Ray
>>Home phone and fax:
>>(985)853-0139
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>
>>God bless President George W. Bush!
>>God bless our troops!
>>and God bless America
>>----- Original Message ----- 
>>From: "Robert Kelly Jr." <rkellyjr at knology.net>
>>To: "NFBnet Blind Talk Mailing List" <blindtlk at nfbnet.org>
>>Sent: Saturday, June 02, 2007 10:43 AM
>>Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] question
>
>
>>Corey,
>>I have some friends that are married and they are blind. The wife works
>>and
>>the third party friend is always around them and the wife is having to
>>cook
>>and feed the friend as well as her husband and family. The friend goes
>>everywhere with them and she too is tired of having to do for the "friend"
>>who by the way is never offering to pay for anything or to return the
> favor.
>>It does not matter if the spouse is blind or sighted...any person would be
>>tired of a "third person" after a while. It can cause a divorce. Marriage
> is
>>a give and take and it seem that your wife is doing the giving by going
>>along with you and your friend in allowing him to go everywhere with you
> and
>>her according to what you said about taking him to Wal-Mart and when you
> and
>>your wife go out to other places. There is such a thing as alone time with
>>your wife and family if you all have children.Reverse the role and what if
>>you were sighted and your blind wife wanted to take her blind friend
>>"everywhere" you and she went would you like that? What if you wanted to
>>just be alone with your wife at the movies and afterwards but her friend
> was
>>with you all. Posting your question on this listserv will give people the
>>impression that your wife does not want to help blind people. You have
>>made
>>it look that way but I think she is just tired of having a "third person"
> in
>>her marriage.Occasionally taking him with you and your wife is fine but
>>not
>>on regular basis. Your friend needs to get a girlfriend and a life of his
>>own.
>
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