[Blindtlk] question

[Gloria Whipple]

Good point. I also agree. 


Gloria Whipple
First board position
nfb of WA
Inland Empire Chapter

-----Original Message-----
From: blindtlk-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blindtlk-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
Behalf Of Constance Canode
Sent: Saturday, June 02, 2007 11:55 AM
To: NFBnet Blind Talk Mailing List
Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] question

Hi,

I usually don't respond to these questions, but I had an interesting thought
about this one.  Put yourself in your wife's place for a minute.  Maybe she
feels like the third wheel.  How would you feel if your wife always brought
one of her co-workers or friends every place you went, and the two of them
started talking shop or just girl talk?  Wouldn't you feel a bit put out?  I
know I would.  Your wife should be much more to you than just wheels.  I
hope with all of my heart that you are not totally dependent on her for
transportation and are able to travel independently as well.  Please don't
be offended.  I really am saying this with the best intentions.  I have seen
too many marriages between sighted and blind people where the blind person
totally loses their independence and their back bone because they love that
car too much.  Admittedly, it is easier to get around in that way, but
independence and self respect are also just as important to make a marriage
work.

Connie
At 01:43 PM 6/2/2007, you wrote:
>Here's yet another observation.  Your wife might not care for you 
>telling all of us this at all.  Hope she doesn't find out.  I agree 
>with Robert and he's got some good points to make too.
>
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>----- Original Message -----
>From: "Robert Kelly Jr." <rkellyjr at knology.net>
>To: "NFBnet Blind Talk Mailing List" <blindtlk at nfbnet.org>
>Sent: Saturday, June 02, 2007 10:43 AM
>Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] question
>
>
>Corey,
>I have some friends that are married and they are blind. The wife works 
>and the third party friend is always around them and the wife is having 
>to cook and feed the friend as well as her husband and family. The 
>friend goes everywhere with them and she too is tired of having to do for
the "friend"
>who by the way is never offering to pay for anything or to return the
favor.
>It does not matter if the spouse is blind or sighted...any person would 
>be tired of a "third person" after a while. It can cause a divorce. 
>Marriage is a give and take and it seem that your wife is doing the 
>giving by going along with you and your friend in allowing him to go 
>everywhere with you and her according to what you said about taking him 
>to Wal-Mart and when you and your wife go out to other places. There is 
>such a thing as alone time with your wife and family if you all have 
>children.Reverse the role and what if you were sighted and your blind 
>wife wanted to take her blind friend "everywhere" you and she went 
>would you like that? What if you wanted to just be alone with your wife 
>at the movies and afterwards but her friend was with you all. Posting 
>your question on this listserv will give people the impression that 
>your wife does not want to help blind people. You have made it look 
>that way but I think she is just tired of having a "third person" in 
>her marriage.Occasionally taking him with you and your wife is fine but 
>not on regular basis. Your friend needs to get a girlfriend and a life of
his own.
>
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