[Blindtlk] cane

Tue Sep 26 08:38:14 CDT 2006

I just want to say that I often use terms like Sweetie, Honey and the
like with lots of folks.  These are not condescending terms but instead
are simply in keeping with my personality.  I am a college counselor and
my students seem to appreciate my warmth and caring.  Perhaps this is a
southern thing but my friends use these terms of endearment as well.  

Kathy Davis

>>> "Graves, Diane" <dgraves at crc.IN.gov> Tuesday, September 26, 2006
9:09 AM >>>
Hi,

Very often when my tolerance level for this baby talk thing has been
maxed out, I will respond in kind, giving them a dose of their own
medicine.  For instance, if someone says to me "here you go Sweetie,"
I
will come back, (just as cordially) with "thank you Sweetie," or
"honey"
or Baby."  What ever strikes my fancy at the time.  It usually catches
them off guard.

Diane Graves 
Civil Rights Specialist 
Indiana Civil Rights Commission 
Alternative Dispute Resolutions Unit 
317-232-2647 

"Attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference."--Winston
Churchill  

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-----Original Message-----
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On Behalf Of Gloria Whipple
Sent: Monday, September 25, 2006 1:42 PM
To: 'NFBnet Blind Talk Mailing List'
Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] cane

Yuck!

I also hate it when people try to talk baby talk to me. I hate it!

Gloria Whipple
Corresponding Secretary
nfb of WA
Inland Empire Chapter

-----Original Message-----
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On Behalf Of Graves, Diane
Sent: Monday, September 25, 2006 7:50 AM
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Exactly.  I usually try to be quick enough to answer their question
before the other person does.  This often succeeds in sending the
message. I think most of us can relate.  

One thing that really grates on my nerves is the ones that want to
"Honey Baby Sweetie" you, like they are talking to a 3 years old.  Now
where are some people who just do this to everyone they know.  I have
no
problem with those people.  The ones I would like to SLAP, are the
ones
that obviously are drowning you in syrupy baby talk and pet names
simply
because you are blind.  

But, you know what?  That is truly They're ignorance and they're
problem, and we can't allow it to define or degrade us.  If we respond
maturely and with dignity, it simply reveals this behavior for the
foolishness that it is.

Diane Graves
Civil Rights Specialist
Indiana Civil Rights Commission
Alternative Dispute Resolutions Unit
317-232-2647 

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Churchill

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-----Original Message-----
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On Behalf Of Cindy Handel
Sent: Monday, September 25, 2006 10:35 AM
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Lindsay,

This still happens to all of us.  The best thing you can do is speak
up
and let them know you hear them.  Answer their question, or tell them
to
talk to you, rather than the other person.  Don't just sit by
passively
and allow them to do that.

Cindy
----- Original Message -----
From: "lindsay" <lindsay777 at charter.net>
To: <blindtlk at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Monday, September 25, 2006 8:20 AM
Subject: [Blindtlk] cane

And what is really annoying is when people don't think you can tell
when
they are talking about you right in front of you.  That really makes
me
made.  I also don't like it when someone asks someone else something
about something you might need instead of you because they don't think
you can understand them.
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