[Blindtlk] traveling

[Alan Wheeler]

I hate to say it, but Peter has a valid point.  What he describes is a 
frighteningly real possibility.


----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Peter Donahue" <pdonahue1 at sbcglobal.net>
To: "Bonnie Ainsworth" <cedarwoman1965 at neb.rr.com>; "NFBnet Blind Talk 
Mailing List" <blindtlk at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Monday, September 18, 2006 2:07 PM
Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] traveling


> Hello Jenn, Bonnie and listers,
>
>    There's possibly a more sinister reason for her parents wanting to keep
> her under their thumb besides her blindness. If Jen's parents receive 
> Social
> Security benefits for providing her a place to live they know that if she
> moves out they'll lose that income. All I have to say about that blarney 
> is
> tough! It's unfair, and is an illegal form of exploitation of the worst
> kind!When my dad retired I became eligible for SSDI Benefits. In addition
> mom and dad also received a monthly check when I lived at home. 
> Fortunately
> mom realized that while the income helped out with expenses it wasn't in 
> her
> best interest to control my life by keeping  me at home and under her 
> thumb
> and strongly encouraged me to move out in to a place of my own and gladly
> excepted the consequences of doing so I.E. the loss of those Dependent's
> Benefits. By the time I finally moved out for good dad had passed away so 
> he
> was not able to stop her from doing this. I know other blind individuals 
> who
> were manipulated and controlled by their parents the same way and suspect
> that the loss of Social Security Dependents Benefits in addition to their
> fears about blindness being a motivating factor for their behavior.
>
>    Jenn I don't know all the particulars of your situation, but wanted to
> throw that out as another possible reason for your parent's treating you
> that way. But if you're of age you have every right to up and leave 
> whenever
> you want, and no one can stop you from going. Sometimes situations like 
> this
> can only be remedied with a little tough love. Mary and I have had to deal
> with similar treatment of us particularly by her parents, but they know we
> don't hesitate to call them out whenever we feel they've over-stepped 
> their
> bounds and have meddled in matters which are really none of their 
> business.
> Know also that you have a federation family that stands ready to help you 
> in
> whatever way we can to ensure that your future will be filled with 
> promise,
> and free of your parents over-protection, and control of your life for 
> their
> benefit. Yours in federationism.
>
> Peter Donahue
>
> ----- Original Message ----- 
> From: "Bonnie Ainsworth" <cedarwoman1965 at neb.rr.com>
> To: "NFBnet Blind Talk Mailing List" <blindtlk at nfbnet.org>
> Sent: Monday, September 18, 2006 1:12 PM
> Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] traveling
>
>
> Jen,
>
> How old are you?  Once you're over eighteen, you're legally an adult and
> they can't try to stop you from living your life.  Sounds like they're
> afraid to let you out of the house because of your blindness?
>
> Bonnie Ainsworth
> Lincoln, NE USA
>
> Access denied ... nah nah na nah nah !
>
> ----- Original Message ----- 
> From: <jaber37837 at cox.net>
> To: <blindtlk at nfbnet.org>; <community at nfbri.com>
> Sent: Monday, September 18, 2006 12:52 PM
> Subject: [Blindtlk] traveling
>
>
> Hi
>
> I have a question or perhaps many questions...maybe even issues.
>
> Here's the situation:
>
> I would like to take a trip to New York; around the Syracuse area. I could
> sneak out of the house, take the Ride bus to the airport and fly there, 
> but
> then I would get my parents all upset, and they would never trust me 
> again.
> Plus, once I got there I could take a cab to the hotel, but then what? The
> only way I can go anywhere is if I go with a friend...I mean that's the 
> only
> way I could go without causing an up-roar, but I don't have any friends 
> who
> I can travel with, and even if I did, that's a really lousy reason to 
> invite
> them to come along.
>
> Is there any way I can get out of my parents' control over me? Is there 
> any
> way to do it legally without causing hurt feelings etc? I can't talk to
> them. They don't want to hear it. I've tried.
>
> I just feel like I have to do something different, and I can't do 
> anything;
> not as long as I'm here.
>
> Jen
>
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