[Blindtlk] traveling

[Peter Donahue]

Hello Jenn, Bonnie and listers,

    There's possibly a more sinister reason for her parents wanting to keep
her under their thumb besides her blindness. If Jen's parents receive Social
Security benefits for providing her a place to live they know that if she
moves out they'll lose that income. All I have to say about that blarney is
tough! It's unfair, and is an illegal form of exploitation of the worst
kind!When my dad retired I became eligible for SSDI Benefits. In addition
mom and dad also received a monthly check when I lived at home. Fortunately
mom realized that while the income helped out with expenses it wasn't in her
best interest to control my life by keeping  me at home and under her thumb
and strongly encouraged me to move out in to a place of my own and gladly
excepted the consequences of doing so I.E. the loss of those Dependent's
Benefits. By the time I finally moved out for good dad had passed away so he
was not able to stop her from doing this. I know other blind individuals who
were manipulated and controlled by their parents the same way and suspect
that the loss of Social Security Dependents Benefits in addition to their
fears about blindness being a motivating factor for their behavior.

    Jenn I don't know all the particulars of your situation, but wanted to
throw that out as another possible reason for your parent's treating you
that way. But if you're of age you have every right to up and leave whenever
you want, and no one can stop you from going. Sometimes situations like this
can only be remedied with a little tough love. Mary and I have had to deal
with similar treatment of us particularly by her parents, but they know we
don't hesitate to call them out whenever we feel they've over-stepped their
bounds and have meddled in matters which are really none of their business.
Know also that you have a federation family that stands ready to help you in
whatever way we can to ensure that your future will be filled with promise,
and free of your parents over-protection, and control of your life for their
benefit. Yours in federationism.

Peter Donahue

----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Bonnie Ainsworth" <cedarwoman1965 at neb.rr.com>
To: "NFBnet Blind Talk Mailing List" <blindtlk at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Monday, September 18, 2006 1:12 PM
Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] traveling


Jen,

How old are you?  Once you're over eighteen, you're legally an adult and
they can't try to stop you from living your life.  Sounds like they're
afraid to let you out of the house because of your blindness?

Bonnie Ainsworth
Lincoln, NE USA

Access denied ... nah nah na nah nah !

----- Original Message ----- 
From: <jaber37837 at cox.net>
To: <blindtlk at nfbnet.org>; <community at nfbri.com>
Sent: Monday, September 18, 2006 12:52 PM
Subject: [Blindtlk] traveling


Hi

I have a question or perhaps many questions...maybe even issues.

Here's the situation:

I would like to take a trip to New York; around the Syracuse area. I could
sneak out of the house, take the Ride bus to the airport and fly there, but
then I would get my parents all upset, and they would never trust me again.
Plus, once I got there I could take a cab to the hotel, but then what? The
only way I can go anywhere is if I go with a friend...I mean that's the only
way I could go without causing an up-roar, but I don't have any friends who
I can travel with, and even if I did, that's a really lousy reason to invite
them to come along.

Is there any way I can get out of my parents' control over me? Is there any
way to do it legally without causing hurt feelings etc? I can't talk to
them. They don't want to hear it. I've tried.

I just feel like I have to do something different, and I can't do anything;
not as long as I'm here.

Jen

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