[Blindtlk] Internet dating for the blind

Sherry Gomes sherriola at earthlink.net
Thu Oct 5 19:50:28 CDT 2006 

It even concerns me that he suggested meeting at his house.  unless I'd
known the person much longer, or known of him through reliable other known
to me and trusted sources, I'd be highly suspicious of a man who didn't want
to meet in a neutral place the first time.  A restaurant, a coffee shop,
these are ideal places.

Sherry
 

-----Original Message-----
From: blindtlk-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blindtlk-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
Behalf Of Steve Jacobson
Sent: Thursday, October 05, 2006 2:18 PM
To: NFBnet Blind Talk Mailing List
Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] Internet dating for the blind

Jen,

This doesn't prove he is lying, because there are possible explanations.
However, it would have been better if you had found something because then
you would have known for certain that he was telling the truth.  I feel very
strongly, for whatever that is worth, that you really should protect
yourself to meet him for the first time in a neutral place such as a
restaurant.  That really shouldn't hurt your chances of making a connection
if that is in the cards and he really should understand.  In fact, the very
fact that you are meeting him at his house may cause him to believe you are
desperate.  Please consider moving to a neutral place.  Making that change
will give you a chance to learn more about him by observing his reaction.
Frankly, if he doesn't understand why you might prefer a neutral place, I
would drop him like a hot potato.

Good luck,

Steve Jacobson

On Thu, 5 Oct 2006 16:56:56 -0400, jaber37837 at cox.net wrote:

>I checked out the Department of State. No one by his name owns a Real 
>Estate license, either as a broker or an appraiser. What does this 
>mean? Does it mean either he lied or he works for somebody?

>Jen
>----- Original Message -----
>From: "Cindy Handel" <cindy425 at verizon.net>
>To: "NFBnet Blind Talk Mailing List" <blindtlk at nfbnet.org>
>Sent: Thursday, October 05, 2006 4:49 PM
>Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] Internet dating for the blind


>> Yes, Jen, it will.  I don't believe there would be any reason for you to
>> even give your name.  You could just tell them that you want to check to 
>> be
>> sure that he has a current real estate license and business license.
>>
>> Cindy
>> ----- Original Message ----- 
>> From: <jaber37837 at cox.net>
>> To: "NFBnet Blind Talk Mailing List" <blindtlk at nfbnet.org>
>> Sent: Thursday, October 05, 2006 4:34 PM
>> Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] Internet dating for the blind
>>
>>
>> Thanks Cindy, this helps. I only know his full name, not the name of his
>> business. I just hope that when I call, it remains confidential.
>>
>> Jen
>> ----- Original Message ----- 
>> From: "Cindy Handel" <cindy425 at verizon.net>
>> To: "NFBnet Blind Talk Mailing List" <blindtlk at nfbnet.org>
>> Sent: Thursday, October 05, 2006 4:12 PM
>> Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] Internet dating for the blind
>>
>>
>>> Actually, you'd have to know where his business is and the name, in
order
>>> for the Better Business Bureau to help.  Additionally, they'd know if
>>> there
>>> had been complaints against him, but not necessarily if he has a
license.
>>> So, the Department of State would provide more information.
>>>
>>> Cindy
>>> ----- Original Message ----- 
>>> From: "Alan Wheeler" <awheeler at neb.rr.com>
>>> To: "'NFBnet Blind Talk Mailing List'" <blindtlk at nfbnet.org>
>>> Sent: Thursday, October 05, 2006 3:49 PM
>>> Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] Internet dating for the blind
>>>
>>>
>>> The better business bureau for starters.
>>>
>>>
>>>
>>>
>>> Alan Wheeler
>>> awheeler at neb.rr.com or alan_wheeler at neb.rr.com
>>> redwheel1 on skype
>>> http://alan-wheeler.blogspot.com/
>>> "Tell the people the truth and the country will be free"
>>>  --Abraham Lincoln
>>>
>>>
>>> -----Original Message-----
>>> From: blindtlk-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blindtlk-bounces at nfbnet.org]
On
>>> Behalf Of jaber37837 at cox.net
>>> Sent: Thursday, October 05, 2006 2:45 PM
>>> To: NFBnet Blind Talk Mailing List
>>> Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] Internet dating for the blind
>>>
>>> I was planning on staying for two days. My Dad doesn't want to stay any
>>> longer than that. AS far as calling NY to find out if he really does
what
>>> he
>>> says he does, not a bad idea, except who would I call...Chamber of
>>> Commerce?
>>>
>>> Jen
>>> ----- Original Message -----
>>> From: "Cindy Handel" <cindy425 at verizon.net>
>>> To: "NFBnet Blind Talk Mailing List" <blindtlk at nfbnet.org>
>>> Sent: Thursday, October 05, 2006 2:24 PM
>>> Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] Internet dating for the blind
>>>
>>>
>>>> Jen,
>>>>
>>>> A phone call or two, to New York State, should be able to tell you if
he
>>>> has
>>>> a real estate license and if he has his own business.  If for no other
>>>> reason, I think I'd put the trip off, for awhile, just because three
>>>> weeks
>>>> seems to soon, to me, to travel that far to meet someone who isn't
>>>> willing
>>>> to do the same for you.  If he has a real estate business and can see, 
>>>> he
>>>> probably does drive.  So, it would be a lot easier for him to come to
>>>> where
>>>> you are.
>>>>
>>>> Are you planning to meet at a restaurant?  How long do you plan to
spend
>>>> there, after driving five hours?
>>>>
>>>> I still think it would be a good idea to wait, even if you do get the
>>>> answers you hope for.  I think you need more time to get to know him.
>>>> You
>>>> need to know if the information he give you, about himself, is 
>>>> consistent
>>>> and if he isn't afraid to answer your questions about him.  He wants
you
>>>> to
>>>> be upfront and honest.  He should do the same.
>>>>
>>>> Cindy
>>>> ----- Original Message ----- 
>>>> From: <jaber37837 at cox.net>
>>>> To: "NFBnet Blind Talk Mailing List" <blindtlk at nfbnet.org>
>>>> Sent: Thursday, October 05, 2006 1:34 PM
>>>> Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] Internet dating for the blind
>>>>
>>>>
>>>> Hi Cindy,
>>>>
>>>> He said that because of his Real Estate business, it's difficult for
him
>>>> to
>>>> get away. Yes, this was a red flag for me immediately, however there
may
>>>> be
>>>> a legitimate reason why this is true. I did ask him to come here to 
>>>> Rhode
>>>> Island, and at first he said it wasn't a problem, but then he asked me 
>>>> to
>>>> come to see him; it's only a five hour drive. So I arranged it because 
>>>> my
>>>> Dad has nothing better to do really.
>>>>
>>>> I'm still waiting for the report I ordered. It will tell me his general
>>>> behavior, whether or not he does run a real estate business, what
assets
>>>> he
>>>> has, whether he owns any licenses...of course, if everything he told me
>>>> is
>>>
>>>> a
>>>> lie, I'm definitely not going. I don't know yet though, so I'll have to
>>>> wait
>>>> and find out.
>>>>
>>>> Jen
>>>> ----- Original Message ----- 
>>>> From: "Cindy Handel" <cindy425 at verizon.net>
>>>> To: "NFBnet Blind Talk Mailing List" <blindtlk at nfbnet.org>
>>>> Sent: Thursday, October 05, 2006 11:45 AM
>>>> Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] Internet dating for the blind
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>> Jen,
>>>>>
>>>>> I have to echo what others have said.  How much of a distance is there
>>>>> between you and New York, where you're meeting this guy?  Where are
you
>>>>> going to meet?  Is that where your date will be, like a restaurant or
>>>>> something like that?  If this guy drives, wouldn't it be easier, and
>>>>> more
>>>>> desirable, for him to come to where you are?  At least, if you're in
>>>>> your
>>>>> own area, you could choose where to go for the date and feel more
>>>>> comfortable about leaving, if things didn't go the way you planned.
>>>>>
>>>>> Cindy
>>>>> ----- Original Message ----- 
>>>>> From: <jaber37837 at cox.net>
>>>>> To: "BlindTalk" <blindtlk at nfbnet.org>
>>>>> Sent: Thursday, October 05, 2006 12:46 AM
>>>>> Subject: [Blindtlk] Internet dating for the blind
>>>>>
>>>>>
>>>>> Hi listers,
>>>>>
>>>>> I'm not sure if this is the proper place to discuss this, but I
thought
>>>>> I
>>>>> would put it out there anyway.
>>>>>
>>>>> About a week or so ago, I had mentioned that I had met someone in New
>>>>> York
>>>>> who seems to be interested in me, and I have found a way to get there
>>>>> without causing an up-roar at home (I was worried about how my parents
>>>>> would
>>>>> react if I just took off).
>>>>>
>>>>> Well, I have arranged it so that my Dad will be bringing me to meet 
>>>>> this
>>>>> guy. Sounds ok, right? He isn't thrilled, but he understands why it
>>>>> needs
>>>>> to
>>>>> be this way. I just can't help wondering if I'm wrong about him 
>>>>> somehow.
>>>>> Of
>>>>> course, I think this way about everybody, even perfectly safe people.
>>>>> I've
>>>>> done a criminal back ground check on him, nothing there except for a
>>>>> traffic
>>>>> violation from sixteen years ago, he sounds ok to me, but is he?
>>>>>
>>>>> Anyway, I could go on and on about this all night, but I won't. I just
>>>>> don't
>>>>> know what to think.
>>>>>
>>>>> I've checked everything I could think of, address, criminal
background,
>>>>> Psych profile, everything seems fine.
>>>>>
>>>>> I guess I just would appreciate some advice if anyone has any. I'm
>>>>> really
>>>>> excited about meeting him, but my paranoia is getting in the way...I
>>>>> could
>>>>> be worrying about nothing.
>>>>>
>>>>> Thanks for any input,
>>>>>
>>>>> Jen
>>>>>
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