[Blindtlk] Internet dating for the blind

Thu Oct 5 19:40:20 CDT 2006

Jen,

Absolutely, meet him in a neutral place.  no matter what he says, you don't
really know him.  It isn't worth the risk you take by meeting him in your
home.  I haven't followed this discussion till this evening, but  no woman,
blind or sighted should take the chance of meeting a strange man in his home
alone.  As eager as you may be to pursue this relationship, take some simple
precautions to protect yourself.  I'm 49 years old, and frankly, I'd feel
skeptical about a man who would expect me to go to his house after such a
short acquaintance and never having met me in person before.  Yeah, I'm
single, and it does get frigging lonely sometimes, but I still would have to
take those precautions.

Sherry

-----Original Message-----
From: blindtlk-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blindtlk-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
Behalf Of Mike Freeman
Sent: Thursday, October 05, 2006 10:19 AM
To: NFBnet Blind Talk Mailing List
Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] Internet dating for the blind

I'd say your grandma is probably right. Seems to me you guys oughtta meet in
a neutral place such as a restaurant. Better yet, he oughtta come to your
locale. When I did the on-line dating thing, I made sure I met the date at a
restaurant and came and left under my own power. Never went to someone's
house on the first date.

Mike

On Thu, 5 Oct 2006, jaber37837 at cox.net wrote:

> Well, let's see...he lives in Endicott, NY, and is a real estate 
> Agent. He does own a car, although I don't know what kind yet.He's 38 
> years old, and the plan is that my Dad will bring me to his house. 
> We've been talking on the phone for three weeks. We haven't discussed 
> going anywhere in the car...I don't think I'll agree to go anywhere 
> with him if he asks...not yet anyway. All I know is that like me, he 
> is a member of the Church Of Jesus Christ Of Latter-Day Saints, and he 
> has a graphic on his profile on the dating site that says he more 
> serious about finding someone. He seems ok to me, but after my 
> grandmother started talking about all the stuff happening in the 
> news...she totally messed me up, lol
>
> Jen
> ----- Original Message -----
> From: "Steve Jacobson" <steve.jacobson at visi.com>
> To: "NFBnet Blind Talk Mailing List" <blindtlk at nfbnet.org>
> Sent: Thursday, October 05, 2006 9:59 AM
> Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] Internet dating for the blind
>
>
>> Jen,
>>
>> I have heard both positive and negative stories about internet dating.
>> What strikes me as odd is that you would be expected to get to where 
>> he is rather than him either coming to you or meeting you half way.  
>> However, there is really so little information here that I don't see 
>> how we can make any kind of judgment or do more than tell you to be 
>> careful.  I assume that your dad won't attend the entire date with 
>> you.  Do you know whether your date owns a car and is intending to 
>> drive you somewhere?  You mentioned a traffic ticket, but I know that 
>> more people in New York City depend upon public transit than in most 
>> places in this country.  Not owning a car would explain his not 
>> meeting you somewhere closer to home.
>> How much contact have you already had, particularly by phone.  Most 
>> of us can show our best sides more easily in writing.  Does the 
>> service you are using do any kind of screening?
>>
>> You certainly want to avoid a situation where you are dependent upon 
>> him to end the date if it doesn't go well.  What I mean is that if he 
>> drives to some other location and you don't know how best to return 
>> to where your father is waiting, you would probably have to ask him 
>> to bring you back to your dad.
>> Rather than
>> doing that, I would make certain I had money for a taxi and that I 
>> knew how to get to where I could find one.
>>
>> Times are different now and the internet is probably not any worse a 
>> place to meet people than is the bar scene, but please be careful and 
>> use your head until you know him better.  Boy, do I sound like a dad 
>> or what?
>>
>> Good luck,
>>
>> Steve Jacobson
>>
>> On Thu, 5 Oct 2006 00:46:14 -0400, jaber37837 at cox.net wrote:
>>
>>> Hi listers,
>>
>>> I'm not sure if this is the proper place to discuss this, but I 
>>> thought I would put it out there anyway.
>>
>>> About a week or so ago, I had mentioned that I had met someone in 
>>> New York who seems to be interested in me, and I have found a way to 
>>> get there without causing an up-roar at home (I was worried about 
>>> how my parents would react if I just took off).
>>
>>> Well, I have arranged it so that my Dad will be bringing me to meet 
>>> this guy. Sounds ok, right? He isn't thrilled, but he understands 
>>> why it needs to be this way. I just can't help wondering if I'm 
>>> wrong about him somehow.
>>> Of
>>> course, I think this way about everybody, even perfectly safe 
>>> people. I've done a criminal back ground check on him, nothing there 
>>> except for a traffic violation from sixteen years ago, he sounds ok 
>>> to me, but is he?
>>
>>> Anyway, I could go on and on about this all night, but I won't. I 
>>> just don't know what to think.
>>
>>> I've checked everything I could think of, address, criminal 
>>> background, Psych profile, everything seems fine.
>>
>>> I guess I just would appreciate some advice if anyone has any. I'm 
>>> really excited about meeting him, but my paranoia is getting in the 
>>> way...I could be worrying about nothing.
>>
>>> Thanks for any input,
>>
>>> Jen
>>
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