[Blindtlk] Internet dating for the blind

Thu Oct 5 14:54:42 CDT 2006

Glad I could help, Jen.  Again, just be careful.

If you get a bad feeling about this, go with that feeling and don't meet
this guy, you know?

Alan Wheeler
awheeler at neb.rr.com or alan_wheeler at neb.rr.com
redwheel1 on skype
http://alan-wheeler.blogspot.com/
"Tell the people the truth and the country will be free"
  --Abraham Lincoln

-----Original Message-----
From: blindtlk-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blindtlk-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
Behalf Of jaber37837 at cox.net
Sent: Thursday, October 05, 2006 2:50 PM
To: NFBnet Blind Talk Mailing List
Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] Internet dating for the blind

Thanks Alan,

I know how it feels, I've had my heart broken many, many times. That's why
this time I'm not acting all needy etc, at least not to him. I used to call
whoever it was at the time on the phone several times a day. This guy...I
call him once every other day, and if he doesn't answer his phone, I don't
leave a message or anything. I just wait to call another day. I don't think
he thinks I'm needy or anything...

Jen
----- Original Message -----
From: "Alan Wheeler" <awheeler at neb.rr.com>
To: "'NFBnet Blind Talk Mailing List'" <blindtlk at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Thursday, October 05, 2006 3:38 PM
Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] Internet dating for the blind

> Jen,
> I'm not saying you would, but (and I say this from experience) don't chase
> the first love interest that comes along.  I let someone into my heart
> because I so desperately wanted to be loved..."to be happy"...and they 
> broke
> my heart in ways I don't like to think about.  All I'm saying is just be
> careful. *SMILE*
>
>
>
>
> Alan Wheeler
> awheeler at neb.rr.com or alan_wheeler at neb.rr.com
> redwheel1 on skype
> http://alan-wheeler.blogspot.com/
> "Tell the people the truth and the country will be free"
>  --Abraham Lincoln
>
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blindtlk-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blindtlk-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
> Behalf Of jaber37837 at cox.net
> Sent: Thursday, October 05, 2006 2:32 PM
> To: NFBnet Blind Talk Mailing List
> Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] Internet dating for the blind
>
> I hear what you're saying. It just seems like a chance...a chance to be
> happy for once....I don't know.
>
> I know, you're right about my Dad too, but he really doesn't have any
> commitments to keep. He drives around all day and goes to Wal mart. I'm
> paying him to bring me there, so it would help him out. It's probably why 
> he
> agreed.
>
> I know, now it sounds like I'm defending this guy...I really don't know 
> what
> I'm thinking or feeling...
>
>
> Jen
> ----- Original Message ----- 
> From: "Mike Freeman" <k7uij at panix.com>
> To: "NFBnet Blind Talk Mailing List" <blindtlk at nfbnet.org>
> Sent: Thursday, October 05, 2006 1:54 PM
> Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] Internet dating for the blind
>
>
>> Jen:
>>
>> If you ask me, your need is clouding your judgment. If he's in real
>> estate and isn't salaried (i.e., working out of an office), he's on
>> commission and while, like any salesperson, he has to hustle, if he's
>> really interested, he can take time off. Look at it this way: you're
>> worth it. If he doesn't think so, he isn't worth your time.
>>
>> And you say your dad has nothing better to do. It seems to me that's his
>> call to make, not yours.
>>
>> It seems to me you and your family are being asked to do all the work in
>> this deal and your love-interest has to do nothing. What's wrong with
>> this picture?
>>
>> Mike
>>
>> On Thu, 5 Oct 2006, jaber37837 at cox.net wrote:
>>
>>> Hi Cindy,
>>>
>>> He said that because of his Real Estate business, it's difficult for him
>>> to
>>> get away. Yes, this was a red flag for me immediately, however there may
>>> be
>>> a legitimate reason why this is true. I did ask him to come here to 
>>> Rhode
>>> Island, and at first he said it wasn't a problem, but then he asked me 
>>> to
>>> come to see him; it's only a five hour drive. So I arranged it because 
>>> my
>>> Dad has nothing better to do really.
>>>
>>> I'm still waiting for the report I ordered. It will tell me his general
>>> behavior, whether or not he does run a real estate business, what assets
>>> he
>>> has, whether he owns any licenses...of course, if everything he told me
>>> is a
>>> lie, I'm definitely not going. I don't know yet though, so I'll have to
>>> wait
>>> and find out.
>>>
>>> Jen
>>> ----- Original Message -----
>>> From: "Cindy Handel" <cindy425 at verizon.net>
>>> To: "NFBnet Blind Talk Mailing List" <blindtlk at nfbnet.org>
>>> Sent: Thursday, October 05, 2006 11:45 AM
>>> Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] Internet dating for the blind
>>>
>>>
>>>> Jen,
>>>>
>>>> I have to echo what others have said.  How much of a distance is there
>>>> between you and New York, where you're meeting this guy?  Where are you
>>>> going to meet?  Is that where your date will be, like a restaurant or
>>>> something like that?  If this guy drives, wouldn't it be easier, and
>>>> more
>>>> desirable, for him to come to where you are?  At least, if you're in
>>>> your
>>>> own area, you could choose where to go for the date and feel more
>>>> comfortable about leaving, if things didn't go the way you planned.
>>>>
>>>> Cindy
>>>> ----- Original Message -----
>>>> From: <jaber37837 at cox.net>
>>>> To: "BlindTalk" <blindtlk at nfbnet.org>
>>>> Sent: Thursday, October 05, 2006 12:46 AM
>>>> Subject: [Blindtlk] Internet dating for the blind
>>>>
>>>>
>>>> Hi listers,
>>>>
>>>> I'm not sure if this is the proper place to discuss this, but I thought
>>>> I
>>>> would put it out there anyway.
>>>>
>>>> About a week or so ago, I had mentioned that I had met someone in New
>>>> York
>>>> who seems to be interested in me, and I have found a way to get there
>>>> without causing an up-roar at home (I was worried about how my parents
>>>> would
>>>> react if I just took off).
>>>>
>>>> Well, I have arranged it so that my Dad will be bringing me to meet 
>>>> this
>>>> guy. Sounds ok, right? He isn't thrilled, but he understands why it
>>>> needs
>>>> to
>>>> be this way. I just can't help wondering if I'm wrong about him 
>>>> somehow.
>>>> Of
>>>> course, I think this way about everybody, even perfectly safe people.
>>>> I've
>>>> done a criminal back ground check on him, nothing there except for a
>>>> traffic
>>>> violation from sixteen years ago, he sounds ok to me, but is he?
>>>>
>>>> Anyway, I could go on and on about this all night, but I won't. I just
>>>> don't
>>>> know what to think.
>>>>
>>>> I've checked everything I could think of, address, criminal background,
>>>> Psych profile, everything seems fine.
>>>>
>>>> I guess I just would appreciate some advice if anyone has any. I'm
>>>> really
>>>> excited about meeting him, but my paranoia is getting in the way...I
>>>> could
>>>> be worrying about nothing.
>>>>
>>>> Thanks for any input,
>>>>
>>>> Jen
>>>>
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