[Blindtlk] Internet dating for the blind

[Steve Jacobson]

Well, you have to go with your judgment as others have said, but I still feel it is a little unthinking not to offer to meet you half way or to suggest your first meeting take 
place in a restaurant.  Having the church connection is probably good, though, and the fact that your dad will know where you are also provides some degree of 
protection.  I guess it is time to just wish you good luck.

On Thu, 5 Oct 2006 12:08:39 -0400, jaber37837 at cox.net wrote:

>Well, let's see...he lives in Endicott, NY, and is a real estate Agent. He 
>does own a car, although I don't know what kind yet.He's 38 years old, and 
>the plan is that my Dad will bring me to his house. We've been talking on 
>the phone for three weeks. We haven't discussed going anywhere in the 
>car...I don't think I'll agree to go anywhere with him if he asks...not yet 
>anyway. All I know is that like me, he is a member of the Church Of Jesus 
>Christ Of Latter-Day Saints, and he has a graphic on his profile on the 
>dating site that says he more serious about finding someone. He seems ok to 
>me, but after my grandmother started talking about all the stuff happening 
>in the news...she totally messed me up, lol

>Jen
>----- Original Message ----- 
>From: "Steve Jacobson" <steve.jacobson at visi.com>
>To: "NFBnet Blind Talk Mailing List" <blindtlk at nfbnet.org>
>Sent: Thursday, October 05, 2006 9:59 AM
>Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] Internet dating for the blind


>> Jen,
>>
>> I have heard both positive and negative stories about internet dating. 
>> What strikes me as odd is that you would be expected to get to where he is 
>> rather than him
>> either coming to you or meeting you half way.  However, there is really so 
>> little information here that I don't see how we can make any kind of 
>> judgment or do more
>> than tell you to be careful.  I assume that your dad won't attend the 
>> entire date with you.  Do you know whether your date owns a car and is 
>> intending to drive you
>> somewhere?  You mentioned a traffic ticket, but I know that more people in 
>> New York City depend upon public transit than in most places in this 
>> country.  Not
>> owning a car would explain his not meeting you somewhere closer to home. 
>> How much contact have you already had, particularly by phone.  Most of us 
>> can show
>> our best sides more easily in writing.  Does the service you are using do 
>> any kind of screening?
>>
>> You certainly want to avoid a situation where you are dependent upon him 
>> to end the date if it doesn't go well.  What I mean is that if he drives 
>> to some other
>> location and you don't know how best to return to where your father is 
>> waiting, you would probably have to ask him to bring you back to your dad. 
>> Rather than
>> doing that, I would make certain I had money for a taxi and that I knew 
>> how to get to where I could find one.
>>
>> Times are different now and the internet is probably not any worse a place 
>> to meet people than is the bar scene, but please be careful and use your 
>> head until you
>> know him better.  Boy, do I sound like a dad or what?
>>
>> Good luck,
>>
>> Steve Jacobson
>>
>> On Thu, 5 Oct 2006 00:46:14 -0400, jaber37837 at cox.net wrote:
>>
>>>Hi listers,
>>
>>>I'm not sure if this is the proper place to discuss this, but I thought I
>>>would put it out there anyway.
>>
>>>About a week or so ago, I had mentioned that I had met someone in New York
>>>who seems to be interested in me, and I have found a way to get there
>>>without causing an up-roar at home (I was worried about how my parents 
>>>would
>>>react if I just took off).
>>
>>>Well, I have arranged it so that my Dad will be bringing me to meet this
>>>guy. Sounds ok, right? He isn't thrilled, but he understands why it needs 
>>>to
>>>be this way. I just can't help wondering if I'm wrong about him somehow. 
>>>Of
>>>course, I think this way about everybody, even perfectly safe people. I've
>>>done a criminal back ground check on him, nothing there except for a 
>>>traffic
>>>violation from sixteen years ago, he sounds ok to me, but is he?
>>
>>>Anyway, I could go on and on about this all night, but I won't. I just 
>>>don't
>>>know what to think.
>>
>>>I've checked everything I could think of, address, criminal background,
>>>Psych profile, everything seems fine.
>>
>>>I guess I just would appreciate some advice if anyone has any. I'm really
>>>excited about meeting him, but my paranoia is getting in the way...I could
>>>be worrying about nothing.
>>
>>>Thanks for any input,
>>
>>>Jen
>>
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