[Blindtlk] Internet dating for the blind

Thu Oct 5 12:53:52 CDT 2006

Wow, that's cool. I'm happy things worked out the way they did for you.

That's all I've wanted since I was fourteen years old, a companion. When 
people hear me say that, they automatically think that I want this so he can 
do things for me, so that I'd be totally dependent etc. Actually, I want to 
find someone who will allow me to be as independent as possible; someone who 
has faith that I can do it. The emotional need, well that's something 
different...I'm just so damn alone and lonely all the time. It scares me to 
think I might be lonely and alone my whole life...I panic thinking about it.

Anyway...it does sound like a desperate move on my part, I know, but I've 
really got no one, and it really sucks.

Jen
----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Judy Jones" <nfbwatac at earthlink.net>
To: "NFBnet Blind Talk Mailing List" <blindtlk at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Thursday, October 05, 2006 1:32 PM
Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] Internet dating for the blind

> Hi, Jen,
>
> As long as you are being wise, keeping control of the geographic location
> where you are going to meet, and taking precautions for your safety, then
> it's worth a try.
>
> I must also tell you that my husband of 26 years and I had a telephone
> courtship before becoming engaged then married.  We had known each other 
> as
> youngsters overseas with military parents, and gotten back together again
> years later through a mutual friend.
>
> Judy
> ----- Original Message ----- 
> From: <jaber37837 at cox.net>
> To: "NFBnet Blind Talk Mailing List" <blindtlk at nfbnet.org>
> Sent: Thursday, October 05, 2006 9:00 AM
> Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] Internet dating for the blind
>
>
>> Hi Judy,
>>
>> Yes, I've been talking with him on the phone since the beginning of all
>> this, which has been a little over three weeks.
>>
>> Sometimes it can be a good thing to meet friends online. I have one very
>> good friend, an older man, who I met online. I remember when I first
>> started
>> talking to him eight years ago. I kept making excuses why I couldn't meet
>> him yet. When I moved into my apartment, I invited him over,...it was one
>> of
>> the best things I ever did. There was another friend I made online years
>> later that was a good choice.
>>
>> I guess maybe I shouldn't be so scared of this guy....maybe scared isn't
>> the
>> word, but my Grandmother started talking about all the weird stuff that's
>> been going on in the news lately. Before she said all that, I wasn't
>> insecure about it.
>>
>> Jen
>> ----- Original Message ----- 
>> From: "Judy Jones" <nfbwatac at earthlink.net>
>> To: "NFBnet Blind Talk Mailing List" <blindtlk at nfbnet.org>
>> Sent: Thursday, October 05, 2006 9:24 AM
>> Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] Internet dating for the blind
>>
>>
>>> Hi,
>>>
>>> I realize others may have a differing view from mine, but I would be 
>>> very
>>> leery of internet dating.  There are too many unknown factors.  Even
>>> though
>>> it sounds like you've taken good precautions for yourself, I would steer
>>> clear.
>>>
>>> Otherwise, it's really good and commendable of your dad to go along for
>>> your
>>> first meeting--any trusted friend would be a good idea, too.  I would
>>> under
>>> any circumstances never meet alone until I was sure this person could be
>>> trusted and didn't have any ulterior motives.
>>>
>>> Have you talked via phone before your first meeting?
>>>
>>> I also must say, that both my girls have met good friends on the
>>> internet.
>>> One was a girl that our 16-year-old met that was moving to our area and
>>> wanted to meet some friends and find out about schools.
>>>
>>> I was very skeptical at first, but she is a delightful girl.
>>>
>>> The same thing happened again--a young man wanted to find out about
>>> schools
>>> here; his family was moving here from South Carolina.  Now, both girls
>>> and
>>> their friends have been hanging with him, and he is a total gentleman.
>>> His
>>> family is very nice, and I will be meeting with his mom soon, as she is
>>> also
>>> looking for women friends here, too.
>>>
>>> Best wishes, and let us know how everything goes.
>>>
>>> Judy
>>> ----- Original Message ----- 
>>> From: <jaber37837 at cox.net>
>>> To: "BlindTalk" <blindtlk at nfbnet.org>
>>> Sent: Wednesday, October 04, 2006 9:46 PM
>>> Subject: [Blindtlk] Internet dating for the blind
>>>
>>>
>>>> Hi listers,
>>>>
>>>> I'm not sure if this is the proper place to discuss this, but I thought
>>>> I
>>>> would put it out there anyway.
>>>>
>>>> About a week or so ago, I had mentioned that I had met someone in New
>>>> York
>>>> who seems to be interested in me, and I have found a way to get there
>>>> without causing an up-roar at home (I was worried about how my parents
>>>> would
>>>> react if I just took off).
>>>>
>>>> Well, I have arranged it so that my Dad will be bringing me to meet 
>>>> this
>>>> guy. Sounds ok, right? He isn't thrilled, but he understands why it
>>>> needs
>>>> to
>>>> be this way. I just can't help wondering if I'm wrong about him 
>>>> somehow.
>>>> Of
>>>> course, I think this way about everybody, even perfectly safe people.
>>>> I've
>>>> done a criminal back ground check on him, nothing there except for a
>>>> traffic
>>>> violation from sixteen years ago, he sounds ok to me, but is he?
>>>>
>>>> Anyway, I could go on and on about this all night, but I won't. I just
>>>> don't
>>>> know what to think.
>>>>
>>>> I've checked everything I could think of, address, criminal background,
>>>> Psych profile, everything seems fine.
>>>>
>>>> I guess I just would appreciate some advice if anyone has any. I'm
>>>> really
>>>> excited about meeting him, but my paranoia is getting in the way...I
>>>> could
>>>> be worrying about nothing.
>>>>
>>>> Thanks for any input,
>>>>
>>>> Jen
>>>>
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