[Blindtlk] Internet dating for the blind

[Mike Freeman]

I'd say your grandma is probably right. Seems to me you guys oughtta 
meet in a neutral place such as a restaurant. Better yet, he oughtta 
come to your locale. When I did the on-line dating thing, I made sure I 
met the date at a restaurant and came and left under my own power. Never 
went to someone's house on the first date.

Mike

On Thu, 5 Oct 2006, jaber37837 at cox.net wrote:

> Well, let's see...he lives in Endicott, NY, and is a real estate Agent. He
> does own a car, although I don't know what kind yet.He's 38 years old, and
> the plan is that my Dad will bring me to his house. We've been talking on
> the phone for three weeks. We haven't discussed going anywhere in the
> car...I don't think I'll agree to go anywhere with him if he asks...not yet
> anyway. All I know is that like me, he is a member of the Church Of Jesus
> Christ Of Latter-Day Saints, and he has a graphic on his profile on the
> dating site that says he more serious about finding someone. He seems ok to
> me, but after my grandmother started talking about all the stuff happening
> in the news...she totally messed me up, lol
>
> Jen
> ----- Original Message -----
> From: "Steve Jacobson" <steve.jacobson at visi.com>
> To: "NFBnet Blind Talk Mailing List" <blindtlk at nfbnet.org>
> Sent: Thursday, October 05, 2006 9:59 AM
> Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] Internet dating for the blind
>
>
>> Jen,
>>
>> I have heard both positive and negative stories about internet dating.
>> What strikes me as odd is that you would be expected to get to where he is
>> rather than him
>> either coming to you or meeting you half way.  However, there is really so
>> little information here that I don't see how we can make any kind of
>> judgment or do more
>> than tell you to be careful.  I assume that your dad won't attend the
>> entire date with you.  Do you know whether your date owns a car and is
>> intending to drive you
>> somewhere?  You mentioned a traffic ticket, but I know that more people in
>> New York City depend upon public transit than in most places in this
>> country.  Not
>> owning a car would explain his not meeting you somewhere closer to home.
>> How much contact have you already had, particularly by phone.  Most of us
>> can show
>> our best sides more easily in writing.  Does the service you are using do
>> any kind of screening?
>>
>> You certainly want to avoid a situation where you are dependent upon him
>> to end the date if it doesn't go well.  What I mean is that if he drives
>> to some other
>> location and you don't know how best to return to where your father is
>> waiting, you would probably have to ask him to bring you back to your dad.
>> Rather than
>> doing that, I would make certain I had money for a taxi and that I knew
>> how to get to where I could find one.
>>
>> Times are different now and the internet is probably not any worse a place
>> to meet people than is the bar scene, but please be careful and use your
>> head until you
>> know him better.  Boy, do I sound like a dad or what?
>>
>> Good luck,
>>
>> Steve Jacobson
>>
>> On Thu, 5 Oct 2006 00:46:14 -0400, jaber37837 at cox.net wrote:
>>
>>> Hi listers,
>>
>>> I'm not sure if this is the proper place to discuss this, but I thought I
>>> would put it out there anyway.
>>
>>> About a week or so ago, I had mentioned that I had met someone in New York
>>> who seems to be interested in me, and I have found a way to get there
>>> without causing an up-roar at home (I was worried about how my parents
>>> would
>>> react if I just took off).
>>
>>> Well, I have arranged it so that my Dad will be bringing me to meet this
>>> guy. Sounds ok, right? He isn't thrilled, but he understands why it needs
>>> to
>>> be this way. I just can't help wondering if I'm wrong about him somehow.
>>> Of
>>> course, I think this way about everybody, even perfectly safe people. I've
>>> done a criminal back ground check on him, nothing there except for a
>>> traffic
>>> violation from sixteen years ago, he sounds ok to me, but is he?
>>
>>> Anyway, I could go on and on about this all night, but I won't. I just
>>> don't
>>> know what to think.
>>
>>> I've checked everything I could think of, address, criminal background,
>>> Psych profile, everything seems fine.
>>
>>> I guess I just would appreciate some advice if anyone has any. I'm really
>>> excited about meeting him, but my paranoia is getting in the way...I could
>>> be worrying about nothing.
>>
>>> Thanks for any input,
>>
>>> Jen
>>
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