[Blindtlk] Internet dating for the blind

[jaber37837 at cox.net]

Well, let's see...he lives in Endicott, NY, and is a real estate Agent. He 
does own a car, although I don't know what kind yet.He's 38 years old, and 
the plan is that my Dad will bring me to his house. We've been talking on 
the phone for three weeks. We haven't discussed going anywhere in the 
car...I don't think I'll agree to go anywhere with him if he asks...not yet 
anyway. All I know is that like me, he is a member of the Church Of Jesus 
Christ Of Latter-Day Saints, and he has a graphic on his profile on the 
dating site that says he more serious about finding someone. He seems ok to 
me, but after my grandmother started talking about all the stuff happening 
in the news...she totally messed me up, lol

Jen
----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Steve Jacobson" <steve.jacobson at visi.com>
To: "NFBnet Blind Talk Mailing List" <blindtlk at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Thursday, October 05, 2006 9:59 AM
Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] Internet dating for the blind


> Jen,
>
> I have heard both positive and negative stories about internet dating. 
> What strikes me as odd is that you would be expected to get to where he is 
> rather than him
> either coming to you or meeting you half way.  However, there is really so 
> little information here that I don't see how we can make any kind of 
> judgment or do more
> than tell you to be careful.  I assume that your dad won't attend the 
> entire date with you.  Do you know whether your date owns a car and is 
> intending to drive you
> somewhere?  You mentioned a traffic ticket, but I know that more people in 
> New York City depend upon public transit than in most places in this 
> country.  Not
> owning a car would explain his not meeting you somewhere closer to home. 
> How much contact have you already had, particularly by phone.  Most of us 
> can show
> our best sides more easily in writing.  Does the service you are using do 
> any kind of screening?
>
> You certainly want to avoid a situation where you are dependent upon him 
> to end the date if it doesn't go well.  What I mean is that if he drives 
> to some other
> location and you don't know how best to return to where your father is 
> waiting, you would probably have to ask him to bring you back to your dad. 
> Rather than
> doing that, I would make certain I had money for a taxi and that I knew 
> how to get to where I could find one.
>
> Times are different now and the internet is probably not any worse a place 
> to meet people than is the bar scene, but please be careful and use your 
> head until you
> know him better.  Boy, do I sound like a dad or what?
>
> Good luck,
>
> Steve Jacobson
>
> On Thu, 5 Oct 2006 00:46:14 -0400, jaber37837 at cox.net wrote:
>
>>Hi listers,
>
>>I'm not sure if this is the proper place to discuss this, but I thought I
>>would put it out there anyway.
>
>>About a week or so ago, I had mentioned that I had met someone in New York
>>who seems to be interested in me, and I have found a way to get there
>>without causing an up-roar at home (I was worried about how my parents 
>>would
>>react if I just took off).
>
>>Well, I have arranged it so that my Dad will be bringing me to meet this
>>guy. Sounds ok, right? He isn't thrilled, but he understands why it needs 
>>to
>>be this way. I just can't help wondering if I'm wrong about him somehow. 
>>Of
>>course, I think this way about everybody, even perfectly safe people. I've
>>done a criminal back ground check on him, nothing there except for a 
>>traffic
>>violation from sixteen years ago, he sounds ok to me, but is he?
>
>>Anyway, I could go on and on about this all night, but I won't. I just 
>>don't
>>know what to think.
>
>>I've checked everything I could think of, address, criminal background,
>>Psych profile, everything seems fine.
>
>>I guess I just would appreciate some advice if anyone has any. I'm really
>>excited about meeting him, but my paranoia is getting in the way...I could
>>be worrying about nothing.
>
>>Thanks for any input,
>
>>Jen
>
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